Relationship experts say one of the most dangerous beliefs about marriage is that you're supposed to make your spouse happy

Posted On: Sep 16, 2018   |   Posted By: Business Insider

Relationship experts say one of the most dangerous beliefs about marriage is that you're supposed to make your spouse happy

A bad piece of relationship advice is that you're supposed to make your spouse happy, experts say.
Instead, you should be a complete person - happy and healthy - on your own.
Regardless of whether you're currently in a relationship, it's important to work on your self-development.
I recently asked a series of relationship experts to share some relationship aphorisms that, despite being acknowledged as obvious wisdom, are simply not true.
Hal Runkel's answer stood out. The idea that "you're supposed to meet each other's needs and make each other happy," he said, is "BS."
Runkel, who is a licensed marriage and family therapist , was similarly revolted by this particular notion when he spoke with Business Insider in 2017 : "That is the most horrific piece of advice I can imagine."
Specifically, he called out people who refer to their spouse as their "other half." Runkel explained why this is the wrong way to approach a relationship, using his own wife as an example.
"I am a whole person," Runkel said. "She is...

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